I decided today that I would try and write a blog about something that has been on my mind all week. My challenge this week was going back to basics and really getting those details that may have been overlooked and making sure that I have all my source citations in place. As I was confirming and verifying new data, I could not help but to think about my ancestors and how they endured many tribulations throughout their lives just like we all do. It took me many years for me to understand that life is not always easy and you sometimes have to embrace and/or overcome life’s tribulations.
Growing up I always felt that I had got the short end of the stick by not being raised by either one of my parents. Part of me buying into that was the fact that people constantly reminded me of it and would tell me that they felt sorry for me. I took that to heart thinking that something was wrong with me and because of that I felt unworthy. What I didn’t understand was that those things were out of my control and that as a child I am a product of what was inherited to me and that this would be my own wound that I would have to embrace and overcome in my life journey. If you would have talked to me about this 10 years ago, I would have still been a mess and had not embraced my wound. But, this week as I went through each and every one of my family members, everyone I know living and passed has had to deal with much adversity at some point through their lives. Every person will carry a wound of some sort and many of us will carry the scars, but so much in life is the journey of how we heal. I wish I could know all those stories of my ancestors and how they made it through.
So now I am pondering how do I cover the many wounds that I know of, as I am a descendant of all different types of family exploits. How do you explain to people that you might be connected to them because of an outside relationship that someone had with another person? I am not just talking about things that happened during slavery, but things that happened within the past 40 years. Are there rules or a protocol in dealing with this in genealogy? How much detail is too much to detail in telling your family history? Should I just be a “transparent” family historian and let others draw there own conclusions? I would love to know what others think. Please leave your comments and suggestions below. 🙂
Reflecting on 2013 and Setting Genealogy Goals for 2014
I love what you say about so much of life is about how we heal. This is so true! In regards to how you may go about sharing your story. I think that’s up to the individual how you go about it. For myself, when I’ve come across things that may be considered controversial I usually will discuss that individually with someone and not mention it on my blog. I don’t want to burn any bridges and I try to keep in mind that folks coming from earlier generations may be more sensitive to the discussion of certain topics. I’m looking forward to following you on your journey.
Great advice Andrea! I appreciate your comments!
You’ll have to look into your HEART. Someone once taught me and it’s the 1#Rule I live by while doing this when I encountered these stories. Everyone has their OWN way. Mine is “To Do No Harm”…….
Great rule True! Thank you! 🙂
Beautiful blog! So true about life’s journey being about how we heal. Our journey in life is one big lesson after another. We are always learning and hopefully growing. I’m big on “intent”. I believe we must be true and authentic. When sharing information and deciding what is too much, I believe we must start with intent – what is our intent in sharing the information and what do we expect to come from sharing? If our intent is honest and comes from a place of love and has purpose, then regardless of how another person receives it, you can be comforted in knowing that your intent was pure. Love reading your blog and look forward to the next installment!
Thanks Kris! What you say about intent is true! My intentions are to learn from those who have traveled before me and hopefully others will too.
Beautifully written. My heart goes out to for all you had to endure. I applaud your strength in embracing your wounds and heal/working on healing. As far as your blog, you have to do what is right for you, follow your heart. You’ll figure out what works for you. Good luck in your journey.
Thank you Bernita for the kind words!
There are no rules, when it is your blog. There might be tips that are beneficial to get your blog seen. But there are no rules for your words…because one day you will be somebody’s ancestor and they are going to want to know who you are and what kind of life you lived. My advice to you, is the wounds need to be healed and not with band aid that you rip off at will. But from the inside out…where the skin remains intact..no scabs. You have a voice…which you can write in a personal journal, if you are concern about hurting other who had no control either. Your heart will let you know what and what not to put in a public blog.
Thank you Stephani for your thoughts! It is very much appreciated!
Your writing is like a breath of fresh air in the often stale world of online content. Your unique perspective and engaging style set you apart from the crowd. Thank you for sharing your talents with us.
Your blog is a breath of fresh air in the crowded online space. I appreciate the unique perspective you bring to every topic you cover. Keep up the fantastic work!
am been having some difficulties pls pls pls be fast free samples of priligy Additionally, a recent study suggested that PPI use is associated with lower urinary magnesium excretion 19
Thanks for sharing. I read many of your blog posts, cool, your blog is very good.
Fantastic site A lot of helpful info here Im sending it to some buddies ans additionally sharing in delicious And naturally thanks on your sweat
Your point of view caught my eye and was very interesting. Thanks. I have a question for you.
Kalorifer Sobası odun, kömür, pelet gibi yakıtlarla çalışan ve ısıtma işlevi gören bir soba türüdür.
Keep up the fantastic work! Kalorifer Sobası odun, kömür, pelet gibi yakıtlarla çalışan ve ısıtma işlevi gören bir soba türüdür. Kalorifer Sobası içindeki yakıtın yanmasıyla oluşan ısıyı doğrudan çevresine yayar ve aynı zamanda suyun ısınmasını sağlar.
generic priligy online Epub 2020 Apr 2
Can you be more specific about the content of your article? After reading it, I still have some doubts. Hope you can help me.
[url=https://fastpriligy.top/]priligy online[/url] Lower pH for a Girl
Chemotherapy should be reserved for subjects at high risk of recurrence in controlled clinical trials where buy cheap cytotec
Thank you for your sharing. I am worried that I lack creative ideas. It is your article that makes me full of hope. Thank you. But, I have a question, can you help me?
Your point of view caught my eye and was very interesting. Thanks. I have a question for you.
Your article helped me a lot, is there any more related content? Thanks!
Your article helped me a lot, is there any more related content? Thanks!
Can you be more specific about the content of your article? After reading it, I still have some doubts. Hope you can help me.
Thanks for sharing. I read many of your blog posts, cool, your blog is very good.
Thanks for sharing. I read many of your blog posts, cool, your blog is very good.
Thanks for sharing. I read many of your blog posts, cool, your blog is very good.
Thanks for sharing. I read many of your blog posts, cool, your blog is very good.
Your article helped me a lot, is there any more related content? Thanks!
Can you be more specific about the content of your article? After reading it, I still have some doubts. Hope you can help me.